“My ego won’t allow me to forgive because I am not at fault.”
“I can only see in black and white because my ego blocks a rainbow of colors.”
“I rather hold a grudge then let go and make amends because to surrender will bruise my ego.”
Tomorrow isn’t promised and you can’t get back yesterday today. The energy it takes to blame others for wrongs against you is allowing a thief to steal a piece of you and every piece of you is precious. Ego is a blinding handicap preventing us from seeing the errors of our own ways. It is easier to close our eyes then to see the face in the mirror. You are responsible for your own life, your own actions and the misdeeds you blame others for. Own it. You can’t change what other people feel, think or believe. To think otherwise is hubris. You can only change yourself.
We are like a single grain of sand, for it takes an infinite number of us to make a beach. We won’t survive if we drift away alone. We may think we don’t need the person next to us or that person who walked out of our lives years ago. Maybe we don’t but they may need us. But that ugly pride keeps the doors locked.
Each soul that we meet touches our heart and leaves an imprint on our lives. Every moment is a memory some micro, some macro. Memories are the seeds that grow into mighty trees. Sprouting saplings that will one day adorn buds that will bloom into vibrant leaves. Leaves that will one day offer a home for nesting, a cool breeze or shade from the blazing sun. Each leaf a memory for a season, growing then changing until it falls and blows away. A new season will spring and again buds will blossoms and create new leaves of memories.
When you forgive someone who has done you wrong you aren’t absolving them of their misdeed. Hell they might even wrong you again. Nine out of ten they aren’t sorry nor do they care if you forgive them or not. You forgive to cleanse the grime that causes residue funk to grow in your mind, heart and soul. Holding a grudge is like a gnat buzzing around your head. You swat it away but until you eliminate it, it won’t go away. When you continue to let the grime grow and fester it gets bigger, smellier and becomes sore that will never heal. Forgive and heal yourself. Let go of your ego and allow yourself to grow.
If we are mindful we will hear the beating heart in the blowing winds and crashing waves. We will see the light inside us when the sun reflects upon the moon. We will hear the songs in our soul when the birds sing and feel love when we embrace life. We will smell heaven in blossoming flowers and taste contentment when we eat the fruits of forgiveness. We are bound to one and other. We are strong together. Don’t let the ego separate us.
We already live a world where hate bubbles and explodes into fear. We built walls to protect ourselves from hate, a wall that we hide behind and prevents love from entering and embracing us. Lets take a bulldozer to that fear and knock down that wall and obliterate the ego and let love grow and reign free.
©Kimberly Wilhelmina Floria 8/7/15
Wise words.
Thank you for your likes on my blog. I have looked at some of your posts too, you are very interesting.
Thank you for your visits and commenting. I hope to receive more.
You’re def a bigger person than me.
I don’t forgive. I prefer the move on method.
If this is my downfall – I’m doomed.
Maybe when you get older and realize the wrong is their issue, not yours. I say when you’re older because I didn’t forgive when I was younger.
Only time will tell. Eh?
I hope I live to see “older.”
xo
Your good heart you will.
Awww…Thanks Kim. ❤
fantastic. I love you words, your insight and your lessons….
Thank you Millie. You are one of the masters so your compliment means the world to me.
Plus I should say your post is both well constructed and deeply powerful.However, what you (quite correctly) prescribe is frequently a journey rather than a doorway. It involves a willingness to accept pain rather than trying to avoid it. Once again, the crucifixion can be a very useful metaphor.
That does makes sense. I have taken pain and smiled while crumbling that I over look the willingness aspect.
Our choices are influenced by what we are taught…and so ability to reject taking offense at something is not always fully under our conscious control.
Unless we work over time to make it.
Oh very true. The affairs of the world wouldn’t be the chaos that it is if the virus wasn’t past down from generation to generation.
WHOSE OFFENCE?
No one takes offence
Unless they’ve already built one
Which furthermore
They demand that you not cross
Most curious of all
They are seldom more than vaguely aware
Of any of this
Apart of course
From their justified offence
That’s true. The person who inspired this write doesn’t take offense and places the blame on the other party.
I try to admit when I am wrong even when I don’t want to. Although sometimes it will take me a while. I don’t think anyone wants to be wrong, but the ego does rule at times.
Unfortunately, I let my wall be bulldozed before, and that didn’t go too well, so it’s made of sturdier stuff now lol
I understand but you have to at least put a door in the wall so that some love gets in.
Very deep!
Thanks 🙂
Good Morning, Kim & Everyone. Kim I really needed to read these powerful words this morning. Thank You! That image couldn’t be more apropos.
Thank you Ametia. Thanks for visiting.
You are a true wordsmith, Kim, when it comes to real life thoughts and issues then penning them for others to appreciate. I agree with all you said and I also like the previous follower’s comment about our choices of taking offense. I feel like nowadays we’re all walking on eggshells so not to offend anyone. Life shouldn’t be that way but it is understandably for some, which is where unfairness comes into play.
I’ll just continue praying that someday we’ll all get along and accept each other for who we are, what we stand for and if there is something we don’t like, we’ll turn the other way. Hate is so powerful when it turns into violence and harming others simply because of prejudice. It’s so tragic and sad and heartbreaking each time I turn on the news. I could go on and on but I’ll stop here. 🙂 And just so you know, you have placed an imprint on my life through this blogging world and I’m blessed to have met you.
I feel blessed to have met you too Lauren. I watch the news so infrequently. I scroll FB and if something piques my interest I’ll read about it or turn on the news to get up dates. I’m tired of the madness we are living in today. Thanks for reading and commenting Lauren.
I don’t watch it often either but I do catch some on fb, as well. I try to keep up with world news but it’s all so depressing…
Yes it all is. I usually catch human interest stories.
Again great post and comments. If you have not watched these news source, I would encourage you to watch PBS Newshour or BBC World News America, both of whom are even handed, have informed guests and ask them to civilly discuss the news. They will also present more news around successes to battling problems like climate change, poverty and education. Also, no commercials.
I will check it out.
This is well said. I would add that we choose whether to take offense at something. We choose whether to give our power away to someone trying to offend us. If you do not take offense, you are not offended.
Thank you and yes you’re right. We do have a choice if we allow something to affect us.