Sheri Bessi who writes Letters to Humanity wrote a post a few days reminding us to look beyond the physical being before us and look inside. We don’t know what battles the next person is fighting. What demons haunt them. We all handle the obstacles we stumble upon in life differently some of us lash out ready to hurt and maim whoever gets in our way. Some of us crawl into dark holes and hide. Some ignore the pain until it becomes unbearable.
When we are happy we want to spread the joy with laughter, song, and dance. If we are sad or hurting we pretend to be alright trying to maintain our privacy. In some cases, we want to avoid embarrassment. We even shun socializing to keep that sadness or pain under wrap. Some of us feed off that sadness because we don’t know what happiness is.
People hide who they are because it is easier than having to explain who they really are. They don’t want the world to see or know they are hurting. So they put on the face they save for the world. They think we won’t notice they’re crumbling on the inside.
When asked, “how are you?”
They say, “fine, I’m okay.”
In reality, when people ask how you’re feeling do they really want to know? I don’t remember the movie it is but I know it’s Jack Nicholson who says, “you can’t handle the truth.” It’s more we don’t believe the truth. So we don’t share the truth. It’s sad that some of us hurt so badly with deep wounds. So deep that we get lost and stumble in a cave of loneliness.
Those of us who are compassionate try to reach out to those hurting. We want to help, to comfort, and offer hope. That’s not always what they want. The best we can do for them is to let them be, give them their space. We can offer our face, our smile, and an open heart they can seek out if they choose to show their true face.
We, no I, I can only speak for myself. I offer love and compassion to all that I meet. Some will embrace and accept the sincere thoughtfulness. Others will need more time to warm up to smiling faces. Sad, but, we aren’t use to kindness from strangers.
One thing I know and believe we shouldn’t let other people’s behavior dictate our reaction. Don’t let their hurt spill over into the cup we’re sipping out of. You don’t need that bitter taste on your tongue. This is what Sheri is sharing with us try being understanding without sacrificing our peace, our happiness.
©Kimberly Wilhelmina Floria
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